The paradoxes of the perfect woman (1)

It is a well known fact that different people will have different opinions on the same matter. And when it comes to the perfect woman, the diversity is even greater as issues such as taste and looks also interfere. Still, it wouldn't be totally wrong (I'd say it would be quite ok) to name some features that (almost) every perfect woman should have. These features that I will list below have been often described by the many men (and couples) I know as being "most desirable". However, it won't come as a surprise to see that most of them are contradictory.

Let's begin with one feature that traditionally belongs to women: they are weak, helpless and often depend on men for many activities that they can't perform themselves (such as fixing things around the house). Now, most men will agree that having such a woman next to them is very comforting, as it makes them feel stronger and allows them to express all their manly superiority (even if only the phisical one). At the same time, women should completely deny this feature of theirs the moment they are in an emotional crisis situation, especially if it has been caused by the man next to them. If, all of the sudden, the man decides to leave, to break the relationship, or to cheat on his partner, the woman must absolutely make proof of moral strenght and either accept things as they are or take full responsibility for them. Under no circumstances should the woman allow herself to be weak, to cry, to beg for the man to return. He will consider this a total lack of dignity and this will only worsen the situation. So there's no more cuddling in your man's arms when you are going through a rough time. You're a woman, stand up and show your strenght.
How is this paradox explained? Quite simply. Men like to feel strong and protective as long as they don't have to worry about protecting themselves. If the woman next to them is weak by nature, they will comfort her because, by doing so, they will actually comfort themselves. But when the woman turns into a potential threat (either because they see her as the cause of the break up, or because they fear she will make them feel guilty), they take a defensive attitude and... everybody is for himself.
However, no man will ever deny that he'd like the woman next to him to need his protection, as no man will deny he'd like a strong and independent woman who can go on without them too, if that is the case. And there you have your paradox.